Dating and Marriage

At this early stage in my life, I am certainly not looking for "marriage-like" relationship. In my relationships in college, I expect reciprocal trust and respect, and shared values and interests. Though I feel most people enter a relationship hoping to increase their own happiness, the two articles seem to illustrate that a happy marriage is one in which each spouse cares almost more about their parnter's happiness than their own. If a couple can truely overcome their selfish interests, I'm sure a marriage would be very happy, but this seems like a very hard thing to do. I would think that as a relationship grows and develops, each partner begins to care more about the other's happiness. Certainly loving your "neighbor" as or even more than yourself fits into Christian values. And, though the self-sacrafice sounds intense, I believe these relationships exist very often in modern society. That is the type of relationship I'd want with the person I finally decide to marry--one where I know that he loves me enough to put aside his own interets for mine.